Strengths Primer: Consistency

People strong in the Consistency theme (also called Fairness in the first StrengthsFinder assessment) are keenly aware of the need to treat people the same. They try to treat everyone in the world fairly by setting up clear rules and adhering to them.

  • Needs on a team: To have things be fair
  • As a Leader: Treat people the same
  • In Conflict: Set up clear rules
  • Partner with: Maximizer or Individualization theme
  • In academics: – loves fairness – prefers courses where expectations are clear and spelled out in advance – loves grading rubrics – dislikes being in courses where the prof plays favorites or where expectations change during the term – surprises are no fun to these students, so they will want to map out their educational plan well in advance and then stick to it – enjoys routines, processes, and other sequential procedures, so may enjoy the sciences, statistics, accounting, music, engineering or law

Learn more here. 

Strengths Primer: Self-Asssurance

People strong in the Self-assurance theme feel confident in their ability to manage their own lives. They possess an inner compass that gives them confidence that their decisions are right.

  • Needs on a team: To be right
  • As a Leader: Provide confidence
  • In Conflict: Influence outcome
  • Partner with: a strong Strategic, Deliberative, or Futuristic theme. This person can help you assess the goals to which you commit. You need this help because once you set your sights on a goal you are very likely to stay with it until it is achieved. 
  • In academics: – loves to make a difference – enjoys class participation – enjoys classes where they can be successful – prefers classes that are relevant to their goalsand desires – enjoys independent study or creating their own assignments –appreciates feedback from profs

Learn more here

Mindfulness for anxiety

The growing body of evidence supporting mindfulness/meditation as an effective intverention in helping with anxiety is undoubtable. Research from Oxford shows significant improvementsreductions of 58% in anxiety (GAD-7), 40% in stress (PSS) and 57% in depression(PHQ-9). Take a look at this great set of guided meditationsThe use of these exercises is discussed in both of our books: Mindful Way Through Anxiety and Worry Less, Live More 


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  1. Mindfulness of Breath
  2. Mindfulness of Sounds
  3. Mindfulness of Physical Sensations
  4. Mindfulness of Emotions
  5. Mindfulness of Emotions and Physical Sensations
  6. Mindfulness of Clouds and Sky
  7. Mountain Meditation
  8. Inviting a Difficulty in and Working it Through the Body
  9. Your Personal Experience with Self-Compassion
  10. Mindful Observation of Self-Critical Thoughts
  11. Mindfulness-based Progressive Muscle Relaxation
    1. Instructions
    2. 16 muscle group exercise
    3. 7 muscle group exercise
    4. 4 muscle group exercise

Strengths Primer: Strategic

Day two, second theme to drill into. 

People especially talented in the Strategic theme create alternative ways to proceed. Faced with any given scenario, they can quickly spot the relevant patterns and issues.

  • Needs on a team: To Seek Alternatives
  • As a Leader: Forge The Path Forward
  • In Conflict: Quickly Name the Issues
  • Partner with: Activator
  • In academics: loves to see the alternative – likes classes that emphasize options, alternative solutions, and strategic thinking – independent study often appeals, as do creative assignments

Read the full primer here.

Strengths Primer: Strategic

Day two, second theme to drill into. 

People especially talented in the Strategic theme create alternative ways to proceed. Faced with any given scenario, they can quickly spot the relevant patterns and issues.

  • Needs on a team: To Seek Alternatives
  • As a Leader: Forge The Path Forward
  • In Conflict: Quickly Name the Issues
  • Partner with: Activator
  • In academics: loves to see the alternative – likes classes that emphasize options, alternative solutions, and strategic thinking – independent study often appeals, as do creative assignments

Read the full primer here.

Strengths Primer: Woo

34 days, 34 theme. First up Winning other overs-Woo

People strong in the Woo theme love the challenge of meeting new people and winning them over. They derive satisfaction from breaking the ice and making a connection with another person. 

  • Needs on a team: 
    • To meet people

     

  • As a Leader: Network with others
  • In Conflict: Keep people connected
  • Partner with: someone with a strong Relator or Empathy theme. This person can solidify the relationships that you begin.
  • In academics: – loves to meet new people – enjoys taking a variety of classes – enjoys new material and opportunities to meet people they wouldn’t otherwise meet – relationship with prof is important – group projects usually appeal

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Strengths Primer: Woo

34 days, 34 theme. First up Winning other overs-Woo

People strong in the Woo theme love the challenge of meeting new people and winning them over. They derive satisfaction from breaking the ice and making a connection with another person. 

  • Needs on a team: 
    • To meet people

     

  • As a Leader: Network with others
  • In Conflict: Keep people connected
  • Partner with: someone with a strong Relator or Empathy theme. This person can solidify the relationships that you begin.
  • In academics: – loves to meet new people – enjoys taking a variety of classes – enjoys new material and opportunities to meet people they wouldn’t otherwise meet – relationship with prof is important – group projects usually appeal

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Unlease your Ātman: Positive Lexiography

Are you suffering from Yūgen (幽玄) after a new year’s festivities? Perhaps have a sense of Wu (無) since you have no Abhisar (अभिमान) to keep. Maybe you can spend your new year’s day with your Ah-un (阿吽) seeking Anand (آنَنْد) which might be found in Asabiyyah (عصبية), through Bricolage or Bayanihan, being in you Cynefin, or living Erlebnis. Did any of this make sense? If not, check out the Positive Lexiography and expand your vcoabularly. This online dictionary gathers unique words from around the world focusing on poistive aspirations and interactions. Unlease your Ātman (आत्मन्) and give up Avos (авось).

As the sihalese say: “Ayubowan (ආයුබෝවන්)”

You can read the story of the project here

 

 

 

 

 

Duša (душа) (Russian): one’s inner heart and soul.

 

 

 

 

 

(German): living fully, experiencing life deeply and intensely in the here and now.

 

Eros (ἔρως) (Greek, n.): desire; romantic, erotic, passionate love.

 

Estağfurullah (Turkish, injunction): lit. ‘may God grant me mercy’; used to express ‘don’t mention it’ (e.g., in response to receiving praise). 

 

Estrenar (Spanish, v.): to use or wear something for the first time.

 

Eudaimonia (ευδαιμονία) (Greek, n.): lit. ‘good spirit’; fulfilment, flourishing, being infused with divine grace.

 

S’entendre (French, v.): to hear each other, to get on, to understand one another.

 

Exaucer (French, v.): to grant/fulfil a wish.

 

 

 

F

 

Famn (Swedish, n.): the area/space within two arms, e.g., ‘in my arms’.

 

Fanaa (فناء) (Arabic): ‘annihilation’ of the ego, leading to enlightenment and union with God.

 

Fargin (Yiddish, n.): ungrudging and overt (expressed) pride and happiness at other’s successes.

 

Farhat (فَرْحَت) (Urdu, n.): joy, delight.

 

Feestvarken (Dutch, n.): lit. party pig, i.e., someone in whose honour a party is thrown.

 

Feierabend (German, n.): festive mood at the end of a working day.

 

Fēng yùn (風韻) (Chinese): personal charm and graceful bearing.

 

Fernweh (German, n.): the ‘call of faraway places,’ homesickness for the unknown.

 

Fiambre (Spanish, n.): food prepared for (in recognition of) the dead (e.g., on the Day of the Dead)

 

Filoxenia (Φιλοξενία) (Greek, n.): love of strangers/guests; a hospitable act of welcome.

 

Fingerspitzengefühl (German, n.): ‘fingertip feeling,’ the ability to act with tact and sensitivity. 

 

F/pirgun (פירגון) (Hebrew, n.): ungrudging and overt (expressed) pride and happiness at other’s successes.

 

Fitra (فطرة) (Arabic): an innate purity and closeness to God.

 

Fjellvant (Norwegian) (adj.): Being accustomed to walk in the mountains.

 

Flâner (French, v.): leisurely strolling the streets.

 

Flâneur (French, n.): someone who wanders the streets to experience the city.

 

Forelsket (Norwegian, n.): the euphoric act/feeling of falling in love.

 

Fremdschämen (German, n.): vicarious embarassment/shame; a cringing feeling.

 

Frimousse (French, n.): a sweet/cute little face.

 

Frisson (French, n.): a sudden feeling of thrill, combining fear and excitement.

 

Friluftsliv (Norwegian): living in tune with nature.

 

Fukinsei (不均整) (Japanese, n.): natural / sponteneous asymmetry or irregularity.

 

 

 

G

 

Ganbaru (頑張る) (Japanese, v.): lit. ‘to stand firm’; to do one’s best.

 

Geborgenheit (German, n.): feeling protected and safe from harm.

 

Gemilut hasadim (Yiddish, n.): acts of loving-kindness.

 

Genki (元気) (Japanese): being healthy, energetic, and full of life.

 

Gezellig (Dutch, adj.): cosy, warm, intimate, enjoyable.  

 

Gemütlich (German, adj.): cosy, homely, comfortable.

 

Gemütlichkeit (German, n.): a feeling of comfort, cosiness, homeliness.

 

Gestalt (German, n.): an overall pattern / configuration, where the whole is greater than the sum of its parts.

 

Gigil (Tagalog, n.): the irresistible urge to pinch/squeeze someone because they are loved or cherished.

 

Giri (義理) (Japanese, n.): duty, obligation, a debt of honour.

 

Gjensynsglede (Norwegian, n.) The joy of meeting someone you haven’t seen in a long time.

 

Glasnost (гла́сность) (Russian, v.): to engage in open discussion, relationships and/or governance.

 

Goesting (Dutch, n.): desire, passion, craving, also implying togetherness, satisfaction, tenderness, etc.

 

Gökotta (Swedish, n.): lit. ‘early-morning cuckoo’, waking up early to hear the first birds sing.

 

Goraikou (御来光) (Japanese, n.): lit. ‘sacred delivery of light; e.g., sunlight seen from top of mt. Fuji.

 

Gotong royong (Indonesian, n.): mutual aid/endeavour; the collective pursuit of a task.

 

Grok (English, new coinage, v.): to understand so thoroughly that observer becomes part of the observed.

 

Guān xì (關係) (Chinese, n.): a build-up of relationships and good social karma.

 

Gula (Spanish, n.): gluttony, indulgence, the desire to eat simply for the taste.

 

Gumusservi (Turkish, n.): the glimmering that moonlight makes on water.

 

Gunnen (Dutch, v.): to think that someone deserves something (good); to feel happy for them getting it.

 

Guru (গূরূ) (Bengali, n.): brotherly affection, with a sense of admiration.

 

Guru (गुरु) (Sanskrit, n.): a religious /spiritual teacher, guide, master, and/or person of reverence.

 

 

 

H

 

Habseligkeiten (German, n.): blessed, precious belongings (as in one’s most treasured possessions).

 

Hachnasat orchim (Yiddish/Hebrew, n.): ‘bringing in guests’; offering hospitality and respect to strangers.

 

Hahn (한) (Korean, n.): sorrow, regret, patiently waiting for amelioration.

 

Harikoa (Māori, n.): joyful, euphoric, delighted, exuberant, elated, thrilled, ecstatic, jubilant.

 

Harsha (हर्श) (Sanskrit, n.): joy, delight or excitement associated with some external event.

 

Hedersmann (Norwegian) (noun): An honest man with great integrity.

 

Heimat (German, n.): deep-rooted fondness towards a place to which one has a strong feeling of belon

 

Heimlich (German, adj.): cosy, homely, secure (yet also, paradoxically, can mean sinister and uncanny).

 

Herrliche Gefühle (German, n.): glorious feelings.

 

Hiraeth (Welsh, n.): longing for one’s homeland, with nostalgia and wistfulness.

 

Hugfanginn (Icelandic) (adj.): lit. ‘mind-captured’, to be charmed or fascinated by someone/something.

 

Hygge (Danish/Norwegian) (n.): a deep sense of place, warmth, friendship, and contentment.

 

Hyggelig (Danish/Norwegian) (adj.): enjoyable, warm, friendly, pleasant.

 

 

 

I

 

Ikigai (生き甲斐) (Ikigai): a ‘reason for being,’ the sense that its worthwhile to continue living.

 

Iktsuarpok (Inuit, n.): anticipation one feels when waiting for someone, and keeps checking if they’re arriving.

 

Inuuqatigiittiarniq (Inuit, n.): being respectful of all people.

 

Ilunga (Tshiluba): being ready to forgive a first time, tolerate a second time, but never a third time.

 

Imandari (الإستقامة) (Arabic, n.): ‘righteousness,’ cultivating good words and deeds.

 

Insha-Allah (إِن شَاءَ اَللّٰه) (Arabic, v.): God willing (‘may Allah wish it’), a hopeful wish. 

 

Ishq (عشق) (Arabic, n.): true, all-consuming love.

 

 

 

J

 

Jaksaa (Finnish, v.): to have energy, enthusiasm, and spirit (e.g., for a task).

 

Janteloven (Norwegian/Danish, n.): a set of rules which discourages individualism in communities.​

 

Jeong/jung (정) (Korean, n.): deep affection, affinity, connectedness (may or may not be romantic).

 

Joie de vivre (French): zest for life, the knack of knowing how to live.

 

Jouissance (French, n.): physical or intellectual pleasure, delight, or ecstasy.

 

Jugaad (जुगाड) (Hindi, n.): the ability to ‘make do’ or ‘get by’; a ‘hack’ or improvisation.

 

 

 

K

 

Kæk (Danish, n.): someone who is bold, cocky (not in a pejorative sense), and with a gung-ho spirit.

 

Kairos (καιρός) (Greek, n.): the opportune, ideal, ‘supreme’ moment for decision or action.

 

Kaizen (改善) (Japanese, n.): gradual, incremental (and often continuous) improvement.

 

Kanso (簡素) (Japanese, n.): elegant simplicity, an attractive absence of clutter.

 

Kanyirninpa (Pintupi, v.): lit. ‘to hold’, connoting an intimate and active relationship between carer and caree.

 

Kào pǔ (靠譜) (Chinese): someone who is reliable, responsible, and to do things without causing problems.

 

Karma (कर्म) (Sanskrit; kamma in Pali, n.): causality with respect to ethical behaviour.

 

Karuṇā (करुणा) (Sanskrit; Karuṇā in Pali, n.): empathy, compassion, identifying with the other’s suffering.

 

Kayf (کیف) (Urdu, n.): merriment, revelry.

 

Kefi (κέφι) (Greek, n.): joy, passion, enthusiasm, high spirits, frenzy.

 

Kekau (Indonesian, n.): regaining consciousness and returning to reality after a nightmare. 

 

Kenopsia (English, new coinage, n.): the strange eerieness of empty or abandoned places.

 

Kenshō (見性) (Japanese): temporary ‘glimpse’ of awakening and enlightenment.

 

Klexos (English, new coinage, n.): the art of dwelling on the past.

 

Koev halev (כואב הלב) (Hebrew, n.): empathy, compassion, identifying with the other’s suffering.

 

Kilig (Tagalog, n.): feeling of butterflies arising from interacting with someone one loves or finds attractive.

 

Kintsugi (金継ぎ) (Japanese): literally, ‘golden joinery’ (the art of repairing broken pottery using gold), metaphorically meaning to render our flaws and  fault-lines beautiful and strong.

 

Koi no yokan (恋の予感) (Japanese, n.): the feeling on meeting someone that falling in love will be inevitable.

 

Koko (枯高) (Japanese, n.): weathered beauty, austere sublimity. 

 

Kokoro (心) (Japanese): heart and mind (and even spirit) combined.

 

Kokusaijin (国際人) (Japanese, n.): lit. an ‘international person’; someone who is cosmopolitan, flexible, and open-minded. 

 

Kombinować (Polish): working out an unusual solution to a problem, acquiring skills in the process.

 

Koromebi (木漏れ日) (Japanese, n.): dappled sunlight filtering through leaves.

 

Konfliktfähigkeit (German): the ability to manage interpersonal conflict constructively, without becoming personally involved.

 

Koselig (Norwegian) (adj.): cosy, snug, warm, intimate, enjoyable. 

 

Кохаю (кохать) (Ukranian, n.): passionate, intimate, romantic love.

 

Koyaanisqatsi (Hopi, n.): nature out of balance; a state of affairs (e.g., dysfunctional) that calls for another way of living.

 

Kreng-jai (Thai, n.): ‘deferential heart,’ the wish to not trouble someone by burdening them.

 

Kukelure (Norwegian, v.): to sit and ponder, without engaging in activity.

 

Kvell (Yiddish, v.): to feel strong and overt (expressed) pride and joy in someone’s successes.

 

 

 

L

 

La’asot chaim (לעשות חיים) (Hebrew, v.): ‘to do or to make life’; to live fully, to have a good time.

 

Lagom (Swedish): moderation, of doing anything to just the right degree.

 

Laissez-faire (French, n.): tendency/willingness to leave things to take their own course, without interfering.

 

Lakṣaṇas (लक्षण) (Sanskrit): ‘marks of conditioned existence’.

 

Lehizdangef (להזדנגף) (Hebrew, v.): to stroll along Tel Aviv’s Dizengoff (street), i.e., to have carefree fun.

 

Lekker (Dutch, adj.): tasty (food), relaxed, comfortable, pleasurable, sexy.

 

Listopad (листопад) (Russian, n.): falling leaves.

 

Lutalica (English, new coinage, n.): the part of your identity that doesn’t fit into categories.

 

 

 

M

 

Magari (Italian, adv.): maybe, hopeful wish, wistful regret, in my dreams, if only.

 

Mahalo (Hawaiian, n., v.): thanks, gratitude, admiration, praise, respect.

 

Maitrī (मैत्री) (Sanskrit; mettā in Pali, n.): loving-kindness.

 

Majime (真面目) (Japanese): someone reliable, responsible, and able to do things without causing problems.

 

Mana (Hawaiian, n.): spiritual energy / power, a sacred, impersonal force.

 

Mantra (मन्त्र) (Sanskrit), mind tool, a word, phrase or sound focused on in meditation.

 

Mamihlapinatapei (Yagán, n.): a look between people that expresses unspoken but mutual desire.

 

Manaakitanga (Māori, n.): hospitality, kindness, generosity, support, respect, and care for others.

 

Mangata (Swedish, n.): the glimmering that moonlight makes on water.

 

Mārga (मार्ग) (Sanskrit): a spiritual path or way.

 

Masarrat (مَسَرَّت) (Urdu): joy, delight.

 

Mazal tov (מזל טוב) (Hebrew, salutation): lit. ‘good fortune’; a blessing of health and happiness.

 

Mbuki-mvuki (Bantu, v.): to shed clothes to dance uninhibited.

 

Me yia (με γεια) (Greek, salutation): a congratulation / blessing for others.

 

Melmastia (مېلمستیا) (Arabic, n.): hospitality, moral obligation to offer sanctuary and respect to all visitors.

 

Menschlichkeit (Yiddish): being a good human being in its fullest sense.

 

Mерак (Serbian, n.): pleasure derived from simple joys.

 

Meraki (μεράκι) (Greek): ardour (in relation to one’s own actions and creations).

 

Milczeć (Polish, v.): to refrain from speaking (without necessarily being silent).

 

Mitdenken (German): the ability to think for oneself.

 

Míng mù (瞑目) (Chinese): to ‘die without regret,’ having lived a good life.

 

Mokita (Kivila, n.): a truth that everone knows but no-one talks about.

 

Mokusatsu (黙殺) (Japanese, v.): to ignore or keep silent (e.g., when rejecting a bargaining offer).

 

Mono no aware (物の哀れ) (Japanese, n.): pathos of understanding the transiency of the world and its beauty.

 

Morgenfrisk (Danish, adj.): feeling rested after a good night’s sleep.

 

Mu (無) (Japanese, n.): negative, void, nothingness, non-being; used in Buddhism to imply ‘neither yes nor no’.

 

Muditā (मुदिता) (Sanskrit; Muditā in Pali, n.): sympathetic/vicarious joy.

 

Muraqaba (مراقبة) (Arabic): Sufi meditation, ‘to watch over’ or ‘to take care of’.

 

Myötähäpeä (Finnish, n.): vicarious embarassment/shame; a cringing feeling.

 

Mysa (Swedish, v.): to get cosy, to snuggle up.  

 

 

 

N

 

Nachat (נחת) (Hebrew, n.): contentment/satisfaction at someone’s successes (e.g., your progeny or student).

 

Naches (Yiddish, n.): joyful pride in someone’s successes (e.g., your progeny or student).

 

Nakakahinayang (Tagalog, n.): a feeling of regret for not having used something or taken advantage of a situation.

 

Nakama (仲間) (Japanese, n.): best friend, close buddy, one for whom one feels deep platonic love.

 

Namaste (नमस्ते) (Hindi, interjection.): ‘I bow to the divine in you’.

 

Nam jai (น้ำใจ) (Thai, n.): lit. ‘water from the heart’, selfless generosity and kindness.

 

Namus (Turkish): honour, chastity, decency, and virtue.

 

Natsukashii (懐かしい) (Japanese, adj.): missed, precious, yearned for, ‘dear old …’.

 

Naz (ناز) (Urdu, n.): assurance/pride in knowing that the other’s love is unconditional and unshakable.

 

Að nenna (Icelandic, v.): ability or willingness to persevere through tasks that are hard or boring.

 

Nirvāna (निर्वाण) (Sanskrit, n.): ‘ultimate’ happiness, total liberation from suffering.

 

Njuta (Swedish, v.): to deeply enjoy, to profoundly appreciate.

 

Nodus tollens (English, new coinage, n.): when your life doesn’t make sense or fit into a neat story.

 

Nunchi (눈치) (Korean, n.): ‘eye-measure’; the ability to ‘read’ emotions and situations and to respond skilf.

 

Nyaka ন্যাকা (Bengali, adj.): coy, coquettish, feigning ignorance (often used pejoratively).

 

 

 

O

 

Ojalá (Spanish, v.): derivation of Insha-Allah, God willing (‘may Allah wish it’), a hopeful wish.

 

Ondinnonk (Iroquoian, n.): the soul’s angelic nature and innermost desires.

 

Ongubsy (Boro, v.): ‘to love from the heart’.

Onsay (Boro, v.): ‘to pretend to love’.

 

Onsra (Boro, v.): ‘to love for the last time,’ the feeling that love won’t last.

 

Oogstrelend (Dutch, n.): caressing the eye, i.e., attractive or appealing.

 

On (恩) (Japanese, n.): a feeling of moral indebtedness, relating to a favour or blessing given by others.

 

Opia (English, new coinage, n.): the ambiguous intensity of eye-contact.

 

Orenda (Huron, n.): the power of the human will to change the world in the face of powerful forces.

 

Orka (Swedish, v.): to have the energy for something; being enthused and spirited.

 

Osher (אושר) (Hebrew, n.): joy, contented happiness.

 

Otsukaresama (お疲れ様) (Japanese, injunction): ‘thank you for your hard work’, gratitude and appreciation.

 

 

 

P

 

Parea (Παρέα) (Greek, n.): informal party, revelry.

 

Pena ajena (Spanish, n.): vicarious embarassment/shame; a cringing feeling.

 

Peiskos (Norwegian, n.): lit. ‘fireplace coziness, sitting in front of a crackling fireplace enjoying the warmth.

 

Petrichor (English, new coinage, n.): the earthy scent produced when rain falls on dry soil.

 

Þetta reddast (Icelandic, phrase): ‘it will all work out ok’ (used especially when things don’t look optimistic!).

 

Philia (φιλία) (Greek, n.): friendship, platonic love (e.g., based on familiarity or shared interests).

 

Philotimo (φιλότιμο) (Greek, n.): ‘love of honour;’ the importance of respecting and honouring friends/family.

 

Pihentagyú (Hungarian): ‘with a relaxed brain,’ being quick-witted and sharp.

 

Piliriqatigiinniq (Inuit, n.): togetherness, community spirit, working together for the common good.

 

Pittiarniq (Inuit, n.): loving-kindness; being kind and good.

 

Pius (Latin): conscientious, upright, faithful, patriotic/dutiful, respectful, righteous.

 

Pochemuchka (почемучка) (Russian, n.): someone who is always asking questions (perhaps too many!).

 

Poldermodel (Dutch, n.): consensus-based decision making.

 

Pole (Swahili, interjection): ‘I’m sorry for your misfortune’.

 

Potlatch (Chinook, n.): lit. ‘to give away’; a ceremonial feast in which possessions are given away (e.g., to enhance one’s prestige).

 

Prajña (प्रज्ञ) (Sanskrit): wisdom and experiential insight.

 

Pretoogjes (Dutch, n.): lit. ‘fun eyes’; the eyes of a chuckling person engaging in benign mischief.

 

Prostor (простор) (Russian, n.): spaciousness, freedom, absence of constraint.

 

 

 

Q

 

Qì zhì (气质) (Chinese, n.): quality of character, disposition, style, charm, attractiveness, magnetism. 

 

Querencia (Spanish, n.): a place where one feels secure, from which one draws strength.

 

Queesting (Dutch, v.): to allow a lover access to one’s bed for chitchat.

 

Te quiero (Spanish, v.): lit. ‘I want you’; perhaps between I like you and I love you, implying tender affection.

 

 

 

R

 

Radarpar (Norwegian) (n.): Two people that work very well together.

 

Ramé (Balinese, n.): something at once chaotic and joyful.

 

Razljubít (разлюбить) (Russian, n.): the feeling a person has for someone they once loved.

 

Að redda (Icelandic, v.): to save someone or fix something in a time sensitive manner.

 

Retrouvailles (French, n.): lit. ‘rediscovery’; a reunion (e.g., with loved ones after a long time apart).

 

 

 

S

 

Sabi (寂) (Japanese, n.): lonely, desolate, aged beauty.

 

Sabsung (Thai, n.): being revitalised through something that livens up one’s life.

 

Sahar (سهر) (Arabic, n.): informal party, revelry.

 

Saideira (Portuguese, n.): nightcap; last drink before leaving / of the evening.

 

Samādhi (समाधि) (Sanskrit, Samādhi in Pali, n.): one-pointedness / unification in meditation.

 

Samar (سمر) (Arabic, v.): to sit together in conversation at sunset/ in the evening.

 

Samprajanya (संप्रज़न्ऩा) (Sanskrit; sampajañña in Pali): clear comprehension; mindfulness imbued with a sense of spiritual progress.

 

Santosha (संतोष) (Sanskrit, n.): contentment arising from personal interaction.

 

Saper vivere (Italian): the ability to handle people and situations with charm, diplomacy and verve.

 

Sarang (사랑) (Korean, v.): to love someone strongly.

 

Sarshaarii (سرشاری) (Urdu, n.): bliss, lasting contentment.

 

Smṛti (स्मृति) (Sanskrit; sati in Pali): mindfulness of the present moment.

 

Satori (悟り) (Japanese): enduring awakening and enlightenment.

 

Saudade (Portuguese, n.): melancholic longing, nostalgia, dreaming wistfulness.

 

Savoir-être (French, n.): knowing how to be and carry oneself; ‘soft’ or interpersonal skills.

 

Savoir-faire (French, n.): the ability to behave in a correct and confident way in different situations.

 

Savoir-vivre (French, n.): knowing how to live (especially elegantly); being familiar with norms and customs.

 

Sazaadat (سعادت) (Urdu, n.): prosperity, felicity.

 

Schnapsidee (German, n.): a daft / ridiculous plan thought up while drunk (generally used pejoratively).

 

Sehnsucht (German, n.): life longings, intense desire for alternative paths and states.

Seijaku (静寂) (Japanese, n.): silence, calm, serenity (especially in the midst of activity or chaos).

 

Semaphorism (English, new coinage, n.): an enigmatic, conversational hint that you have something personal to say on a subject.

 

Shaadmaanii (شادْمانی) (Urdu, n.): delight, pleasure.

 

Shemomechama (შემომეჭამა) (Georgian, v.): eating past the point of satiety due to sheer enjoyment.

 

Shibumi (渋味) (Japanese, n.): simple, subtle, unobtrusive and effortless beauty. 

 

Shinrin-yoku (森林浴) (Japanese, n.): ‘bathing’ in the forest (literally and/or metaphorically).

 

Shizen (自然) (Japanese, n.): naturalness, absence of pretence, contrivance, or premeditation (e.g., in art).

 

Siga siga (Σιγά σιγά) (Greek, adv.): slowly, slowly (i.e., being unhurried).

 

Sigurista (Tagalog, n.): one who would not initiate an action unless certain of obtaining the desired result.

 

Simcha (שמחה) (Hebrew, n.): bliss, contentment.

 

Simpatía (Spanish, n.): accord and harmony within relationships and/or society.

 

Sisu (Finnish, n.): extraordinary determination in the face of adversity.

 

Sitzfleisch (German, n.): ‘sit meat,’ ability or willingness to persevere through tasks that are hard or boring

 

Sobremesa (Spanish, n.): when the food has finished but the conversation is still flowing.

 

Socha (English, new coinage, n.): the hidden vulnerability of others.

 

Sólarfrí (Icelandic) (n.): sun holiday, i.e., when workers are granted unexpected time off to enjoy a particularly sunny/warm day.

 

Soler (Spanish): to be in the habit of doing something.

 

Sonder (English, new coinage, n.): the realization that everyone has a life as vivid and complex as your own).

 

Sprezzatura (Italian): nonchalance, art and effort are concealed beneath a studied carelessness.

 

Stehaufmännchen (German, n.): lit. a roly-poly toy, used for someone who always bounces back.

 

Storge (στοργή) (Greek, n.): filial love; care and affection (e.g., between family members).

 

Suaimhneas croi (Gaelic, n.): happiness / contentment on finishing a task.

 

Sumud (صمود) (Arabic, n.): steadfastness, a determined struggle to persist.

 

Sukha (सुख) (Sanskrit, n.): stable and lasting happiness (not dependent upon conditions).

 

Sunao (素直) (Japanese): meek, docile and submissive (in a positive, deferential way).

 

Sūnyatā (शून्यता) (Sanskrit): emptiness (phenomena come into being dependent upon conditions).

 

Sutra (सुट्टा) (Sanskrit, Sutta in Pali, n.): lit. ‘thread’, aphorism, discourse, teaching (in Buddhism or Jainism).

 

Suwaad (سُواد) (Urdu, n.): pleasure.

 

Szimpatikus (Hungarian): a decent human being.

 

 

 

T

 

Taarradhin (تراض) (Arabic, n.): a positive agreement/solution/compromise where everbody wins.

 

Ta’ârof (تعارف) (Farsi, n.): politeness, social intelligence (e.g., in relation to receiving/offering hospitality/gifts).

 

Talanoa (Fijian Hindi, v.): to tell stories / to gossip (in ways that serve as a ‘social adhesive’).

 

Talko (Swedish, n.): a collectively pursued/undertaken task; voluntary community work.

 

Talkoot (Finnish, n.): a collectively pursued/undertaken task; voluntary community work.

 

Tao (道) (Chinese): all-powerful and pervasive power, path or way.

 

Tarab (طرب) (Arabic, n.): musically-induced ecstasy or enchantment.

 

Tarbiya (تربية”) (Arabic, n.): on-going moral/ethical and spiritual development.

 

Tathāgatagarbha (गर्भतथागत) (Sanskrit): Buddha nature.

 

Tazkiah (تزكية) (Arabic): purification of the self, purity and submission to Allah.

 

Tertulia (Spanish, n.): a social gathering with literary or artistic overtones.

 

Thróisma (θρόισμα) (Greek, n.): sound of wind rustling through trees.​

 

Tîeow (เที่ยว) (Thai, v.): to wander or roam around in a carefree way.

 

Tilfreds (Danish, n.): contentment, at peace.

 

Tithadesh (תתחדש) (Hebrew, interjection): lit. ‘get new’; salutation given to someone who has acquired a nice new possession or change in circumstances.

 

Tjotjog (Javanese, v.): ‘to fit’, accord and harmony within relationships and/or society.

 

Toska (тоска) (Russian, n.): longing for one’s homeland, with nostalgia and wistfulness.

 

Tripti (तृप्ति) (Sanskrit, n.): satisfaction of sensual pleasures.

 

Trygghet (Swedish, n.): security, safety, confidence, certainty, trust.

 

Tuko pamoja (Swahili, n.): lit. ‘one place’; ‘we are together’, community togetherness.

 

Tyvsmake (Norwegian, v.): to taste or eat small pieces of the food when you think nobody is watching, especially when cooking. 

 

Tzedaka (Yiddish, n.): generosity/charity (mandated by justice), required righteous giving.

 

 

 

U

 

Ubuntu (Nguni Bantu, n.): being kind to others on account of one’s common humanity.

 

Uitwaaien (Dutch, v.): lit. ‘to walk in the wind’; to go out into the countryside (e.g., clear one’s head).

 

Ukiyo (浮世) (Japanese, n.): ‘floating world,’ living within transient moments of fleeting beauty.

 

Ullassa (उल्लास) (Sanskrit, n.): feelings of pleasantness associated with natural beauty.

 

Umami (うま味) (Japanese, n.): a rich, pleasant, savoury taste.

 

Uitbuiken (Dutch, v.): lit. ‘outbellying’; to relax satiated between courses or after a meal.

 

Utepils (Norwegian, n.): a beer that is enjoyed outside (particularly on the first hot day of the year).

 

 

 

V

 

Víðsýni (Icelandic) (adj.): a panoramic view, or, open-mindedness.

 

Vipāka (विपाक) (Sanskrit, Vipāka in Pali, n.): the result, ripening or maturation of karma.

 

Vivencias (Spanish, n.): living fully, experiencing life deeply and intensely in the here and now.

 

Volta (βόλτα) (Greek, n.): a leisurely stroll/turn/walk in the the streets.

 

Vorfreude (German, n.): intense, joyful anticipation derived from imagining future pleasures.

 

Voorpret (Dutch, n.): lit. ‘pre-fun’; the sense of pleasurable anticipation before a looked-forward-to event.

 

 

 

W

 

Wabi (侘) (Japanese, n.): imperfect, rustic, remote, weathered beauty.

 

Wabi-sabi (侘寂) (Japanese, n.): imperfect and aged beauty, a ‘dark, desolate sublimity’.

 

Whakakoakoa (Māori, v.): to cheer up.

 

Waldeinsamkeit (German, n.): mysterious feeling of solitude when alone in the woods.

 

Wanderlust (German, n.): desire/prediliction for travel and adventure.

 

Weltanschauung (German, n.): an overarching/all-encompassing worldview or philosophy of life.

 

Won (원) (Korean, n.): reluctance to give up an illusion.

 

Wu (無) 

 

Charlie Day on doing something that makes you great

Do what makes you happy? Sure…maybe…no. No. Do what makes you great, so argues Charlie Day, creator of It’s Always Sunny in Philedelphia, in his commencement speech to Merrimack college. In an amusing set of vignettes, Charlie outlines how his choices shaped his success: “Fail, pick yourself up and fail again. Because without this struggle, what is your success anyway?”

  

“You cannot let a fear of failure, or a fear of comparison, or a fear of judgement stop you from doing what’s going to make you great. You cannot succeed without this risk of failure, you cannot have a voice without the risk of criticism and you cannot love without the risk of loss. You must go out and take these risk. … Do what’s uncomfortable, and scary, and hard, but pays off in the long run. Be willing to fail. Let yourself fail. Fail in the way and the place where you would want to fail. Fail, pick yourself up and fail again. Because without this struggle, what is your success anyway?”

Strengths mined:

 

On gratitude

Gratitude is one of the 24 character strengths. It has its own holida in the US and Canada. It has a host of positive health benefits

Consider Louie Schwartzberg gorgeous 6 minute film on gratitude.

Here are some nice guided meditations and exercises to focus you on gratitude: